Recovery from a failed marriage or relationship is an angst-laden experience for most couples. Some of the horrific scenarios in my own marital breakdown could have probably found a place in director Danny DeVito’s dark comedy, The War of the Roses. This “gutty little production” as described by film critic Gene Siskel, illustrates how effectively you can impart pain to your partner when you know exactly what buttons to press. The good news in the film is that the abrupt ending spares the couple from postpartum divorce depression. Most marriages don’t end with this kind of finality.
“We know that the wildest and most moving dramas are played not in the theatre but in the hearts of ordinary men and women who pass by without exciting attention, and who betray to the world nothing of the conflicts that rage within them except possibly by a nervous breakdown. What is so difficult for the layman to grasp is the fact that in most cases the patients themselves have no suspicion whatever of the internecine war raging in their unconscious. If we remember that there are many people who understand nothing at all about themselves, we shall be less surprised at the realization that there are also people who are utterly unaware of their actual conflicts.”