Memoirs

Cure #1 for Postpartum Divorce – Part 1 – Find a Boat

“Hard times build determination and inner strength. Through them we can also come to appreciate the uselessness of anger. Instead of getting angry, nurture a deep caring and respect for troublemakers because by creating such trying circumstances, they provide us with such invaluable opportunities to practice tolerance and patience.”

The Dalai Lama

Boats are  metaphors for life. They carry us through fair and foul sailing weather. If we are willing to seek  and reflect they will reveal the answers that dwell deep within ourselves.

Four Cures for Postpartum Divorce:  Solutions That Worked for Me

I Found Myself a Boat

Recovery from a failed marriage or relationship  is an angst-laden experience for most couples. Some of the horrific scenarios in my own marital breakdown could have probably found a place in director Danny DeVito’s dark comedy, The War of the Roses. This “gutty little production” as described by film critic Gene Siskel, illustrates how effectively you can impart pain to your partner when you know exactly what buttons to press. The good news in the film is that the abrupt ending spares the couple from postpartum divorce depression. Most marriages don’t end with this kind of finality.

The Sacred Places of Hiiumaa Island

August 1924 witnessed the birth of my father, Arnold Napp to a farming family on Hiiumaa Island, Estonia. My father was not destined to cultivate the land as his father and ancestors had done before him. At age 19 he would be forced to seek an escape route and leave behind him his beloved island.
In 1944 Estonia was occupied by the Germans. With five other young men who were also targeted by the occupying Nazi regime for conscription, he fled like so many other freedom-loving Estonians to Sweden in a small sailing-fishing boat.

Hiiumaa Fishing Boats

Hiiumaa Fishing Boats

The House Book Nudges My Shadow

“We know that the wildest and most moving dramas are played not in the theatre but in the hearts of ordinary men and women who pass by without exciting attention, and who betray to the world nothing of the conflicts that rage within them except possibly by a nervous breakdown. What is so difficult for the layman to grasp is the fact that in most cases the patients themselves have no suspicion whatever of the internecine war raging in their unconscious. If we remember that there are many people who understand nothing at all about themselves, we shall be less surprised at the realization that there are also people who are utterly unaware of their actual conflicts.”

“New Paths in Psychology” (1912). In CW 7: Two Essays on Analytical Psychology. P.425